Confidence cue – Say yes more

Self-confidence goes hand in hand with positivity. The more positive your self-talk is, the more confident you will be. We’re all guilty of talking down to ourselves – saying things like, “I need to do better,” or “I wish I didn’t do that.” But it’s time to put an end to that negativity.

 

Instead, say yes more.

Then load up your self-talk with positive affirmations instead of self-deprecation.

Ever heard of a mantra? Now is the perfect time to come up with an encouraging mantra for yourself - it may be something you envisage for yourself - but especially something you know that is grounded in experience or felt emotion.

And make sure to rid your vocabulary of any wishy-washy phrases like “I think” or “I hope.” Confidence means you know you can do it – start living up to that now!

3 Reasons we are afraid to ask for help

Struggles and obstacles are a part of life that everyone deals with at some point or another throughout life.

 

Some people know the benefits of asking for help, yet others hold themselves back and suffer silently. Whether you are struggling in your professional or personal life, not asking for the help you need can be detrimental to your success. Here are three reasons why you may be afraid to ask for help.

Pride Stands in the Way

People who are independent by nature tend to struggle when it comes to asking for help when they really need it because they believe they should do everything themselves. Often, this can become a detriment to them and others around them who are dependent on them.

 

While independence is a great trait to have, the pride that comes with it can get in the way of getting things accomplished promptly. It may take you twice as long to solve a problem as it would if you asked for help. It may be honorable to be independent; however, you may be hurting yourself more than you realize when you let pride stand in the way.

Fear of Rejection

The fear of rejection is a big reason people ask others for help when they need it. These people are so wrapped up in their concern that they convince themselves that everyone will say “no” to whatever they ask, so it is better not to ask in the first place.

 

By not asking for help because you believe the other person will reject you, you tell them you do not think they care enough to help. This shows an insecurity that will keep you from accomplishing your goals and keep others from connecting with you on a closer level.

Fear of Being Exposed As an Imposter

Imposter syndrome is a phrase used to describe people who go through their lives doing what needs to be done, all the while feeling they will be exposed as a fraud. They may be having success, but they think it is more luck than any real skill or knowledge that has gotten them thus far.

 

This fear of feeling like an imposter can grow to a point where it is difficult to ask others for help because they may be exposed. This fear can have detrimental effects on a person's personal and professional life because they cannot ask others for help.

 

Overall, when you get into a situation where you need help but hesitate, you may be experiencing one of the above reasons. Overcoming these fears and insecurities can help you move into the life you have always wanted for yourself.